Think of it as a compelling new interest that you’ll want to find time for on a daily basis.
If you’re not ready emotionally, you may make bad choices, choosing partners – or allowing yourself to be chosen by partners – who aren’t suitable.
So let your preparations for online dating include a deliberate campaign of getting to feel good about yourself.
That may mean a physical makeover, though we think that’s the tip of the iceberg.
But if you’re not ready to date, you can very easily find yourself sabotaging your efforts.
If you’re not ready practically, you may find yourself with not enough stamina for the search, which can take up significant amounts of time and emotional energy.
Many dating websites claim that all you have to do to is to sign up and love will be yours.
Here is a hard fact, and one you may find difficult to hear.
You’re not ready to date again if you’re still emotional over the loss of a previous relationship (be that a breakup or a bereavement).
If you don’t feel totally positive about dating online, let us reassure you.
We have taught, coached, and ourselves been online daters, and we have yet to meet more than a few people – certainly no more than the statistical average – who are sad, bad or dangerous to know.
Most people who come to online dating aren’t relationship virgins – in other words they’ve been in love, have had their hearts broken, and so have had their self-esteem knocked.