So don’t tell her I’m from Tanzania.’ According to Joshua, a lot of African men pretend to be American so that they can get girls.
Despite that, Joshua has dated several Japanese girls. ’ Andre, the Jamaican man, once received a text from a Japanese girl he had met a couple of days earlier.
He speaks Japanese well, and he thinks that helps a lot. He wanted to join her, so before long he found himself in the bar. From his experience in Japan, Andre guessed that she either wanted to have sex with him or date him. They had gone out a couple of times, but it didn’t take long for her to become flaky.
They were having a normal conversation when the girl suddenly grabbed him, hugged him and kissed him right on his neck. She would change plans at the last minute, and eventually she stopped contacting him.
Marvin, another Jamaican man, met a Japanese woman in the university cafeteria when he was studying in the US. Marvin had to go back to Jamaica after his university course was over. After he said goodbye to her at the airport, he found himself alone.
In Japan, people tend to rely on non-verbal cues more than the literal meaning of messages. There’s nothing wrong with short-term dating and hook-ups.
These non-verbal cues are not obvious to everybody. The problems here are the differences in expectation and the dishonesty. Do Japanese women date Indian and other South Asian guys? The easiest way to confirm this is to visit Indian restaurants in Japan.
When he tells university girls that he is from Kenya, many of them just remark, ‘Is that in Africa? When they learn that Joshua isn’t from the states, they quickly lose interest.
Once, his Tanzanian friend told him, ‘Hey, I’m meeting this girl and I’ve told her I’m from the US.
‘I should’ve known better because I met her in a bar,’ James says. Joshua, a Kenyan man, has mixed experiences of dating in Japan.