A forum for peer support and informal advice on matters related to physical and sexual health.This forum is not to be used as a place to obtain a diagnosis on an issue or as a replacement for professional consultations with approved medical practitioners.Masturbation is only considered a problem when it inhibits sexual activity with a partner, is done in public, or causes significant distress to the person.It may cause distress if it is done compulsively or interferes with daily life and activities.Think of a person or situation that really turns you on. For a beginner, I would recommend just touching yourself in a way that feels nice. Instead of starting with penetration (this has actually never felt good to me), I would just start with touching your exterior genitals.Your clitoris is very sensitive and will probably feel good to touch. Mess shouldn't be an issue because women rarely need to add lubrication (if they're aroused) and most don't produce much fluid.
As for techniques, I don't know if we're allowed to post links that might be considered "adult". Hey, Mods - Are sites that are informational but have sex toys advertised okay?Lee I fully agree with you Cargoman, sorry that your marriage has been totally celibate for nearly 25 years.However, we do have something in common, I am a 66 year old widower, sadly my wife died over 3 years ago, but I have got over that and like you I masturbate somewhere in the region of 3 to 5 times a week, very enjoyable, only do that because I do not have a partner/wife.Different people like different things, so what exactly you do will be up to you. (Just try not to be sticking things in holes that may not come out.) As for a mess, if you are worried about it then a good place to start is probably in the shower. I touched myself when I was younger just because it felt nice, but didn't have an orgasm for over a year after I started. You just need to find something that feels good to you.At the time, I didn't know what masturbation or an orgasm even was. The most important part of masturbation (for me at least) is your imagination.