We give away our exclusivity before a man gives us the commitment we want.When we close off our options with other men too soon, we actually sabotage our ability to get the commitment and intimacy we so desire.SO DATE MANY MEN TO HELP YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT ONEDating many men at the same time is about helping you feel empowered and raising your self esteem. I have a friend who approaches dating like job networking.HELPING YOU CHOOSE A PARTNER WISELYIt’s hard to see the red flags when there is only one guy on the horizon.If you think he’s your only hope, you tend to gloss over things about him that indicate he’s a good match.It’s the biggest mistake women make, and you need to stop it – right now!– and start dating many men at the same time until you have the commitment you want from the man who is right for you.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy@(be sure to read these guidelines first). I love my boyfriend, but I’m scared of long distance, and I’m scared that (although in theory, I love the idea) we’re going to get married after I graduate, and I will always wonder what it would have been like if I’d dated some other person who came along. I've always felt that wide-net dating practices tend to dilute your ability to make a decision. The biggest reason that I don't like dating more than one person at a time is that it fosters what I like to call channel-surfing syndrome.As of now, both my friend and I are still single, so I guess neither of us can claim to have the superior method. You know how, when you have 200 channels on TV, you end up surfing through *all *of them? I feel extremely guilty for thinking that, in the future, I might want to break up because I want to have experience with other types of guys, but a small part of me (and my older sister..) tells me that I should not be “tied down” my whole college life, especially to the only boy I’ve ever even kissed. I feel like I don’t want to get married without experiencing the rest of the dating world a little bit. I know I’m going to try a long distance relationship, but I feel held back a bit because..well, he’s my first boyfriend. And I don’t know whether or not I want to date other people in the next two or three years while I’m in college.