Ironically, as the incidence of Western women taking part in this behavior increases, Indian man’s desire to marry the Westerner may increase as more and more modern Indian women are not interested in being so confined and traditional.
Ironic that a Westerner is willing to be more traditional than an Indian (who is stereotyped as more traditional), isn’t it?
The irony in all this is that this set-up is very similar to an arranged marriage minus the family pairing you up.
You as the girl are acting as the super-traditional Indian girl who gives up everything; including her family, place of home, independence and identity to marry and move to India.
Situations do change after marriage and through time.
To many Westerners, the statement “I love you” often stands for a long-term commitment.
The first time these couples meet face-to-face is when one saves up enough money to travel to the other.
In some cases, their first face-to-face encounter is also when they decide to marry.
Even for those who have traveled extensively within their own countries or abroad, they quickly realize living in another country, and with in-laws is worlds different than visiting a place on a vacation and staying in a resort!All the eight types were prevalent in ancient India since the Vedic times.It was probably not true that the law books invented the eight types.When his family accepts you; you are now family, so in his mind he is more willing to be open and available to you.Due to the upsurge of the Internet, the incidence of cross-cultural love affairs takes place without the two people ever interacting face to face (in person as compared to Skype, which is not the same).
Because the Western woman is wrapped up in the exotic that is India; the traditional culture with the perceived higher sense of family values due to living in an extended family, and the idea of love conquering all, she is blinded by the reality that is about to hit her like a pile of bricks.