Looking back, I can tell you that all of us girls, giggling at boyish smiles and being grossed out by the kid who ate bugs, were really too young at the time to be in any kind of romantic relationship.Each of my friends' parents had different ages for their daughters when they would be allowed to date, as each of my friends were different people with different maturity levels.Not only are you teaching them how to treat future girlfriends and eventually a spouse, but they are learning how to expect to be treated.My son’s girlfriend’s mother called me that night and said that her daughter told her that if they ever break up he will be a tough act for any other boy to follow because he is so kind to her.How have you handled the idea of dating in your home? Is there an appropriate age carved in stone at your house?*Before middle school “dating” is basically telling everyone that you are “going out” and then consistently ignoring the other person to the point that no one would ever believe you two even know each other, let alone are boyfriend and girlfriend.If you have a question, please email Chris at this specific email address: adviceforparentsoftweens[at]gmail[dot]com.Please keep your questions on the issue of raising older kids.
This is a question I distinctly remember my girl friends and I whispering to each other, comparing notes on when our parents said we could date, and when our other friends' parents would let them date.
I asked him if he thought he would like to buy them for her.
(They are a bunch, hardly a huge expenditure.) He looked at me like I had just suggested he dance naked in the checkout aisle. I don’t presume to understand the inner-workings of a middle school aged boy’s mind, so I dropped the subject.
A few days later he had oral surgery and his girlfriend came over with balloons and ice cream for him.
This was the perfect opportunity to bring up how it made him feel to have someone do something spontaneously nice for him.