A blanket rejection of anyone with HIV means that fewer men feel able to be open and honest and this provides a foundation for ongoing ignorance and fear. This article is Matthew’s own opinion and not necessarily the view of GMFA as an organisation.
Avoiding sex or a relationship with someone just because they’re living with HIV isn’t a good strategy: it won’t prevent you from becoming HIV-positive, it won’t reduce the number of new infections and it contributes to an unacceptable caste system within our communities. This article first appeared in GMFA’s FS Magazine, which relies upon funding from the community.
I’ve always been a firm believer that individuals have a right to work out the sexual strategy that is right for them – and that included rejecting people on the basis of their HIV status. We’ve known for some years now that someone on treatment is very unlikely to pass on the virus. Well you’re more likely to be infected from sex using a condom with someone who isn’t on treatment than you are to be infected from sex without a condom with someone who is on treatment.
So when someone says that they’re going to avoid John because he has HIV (and is on treatment), and then runs off with Jonah, whose status is unknown, they’re taking a far bigger sexual risk.
Monogamy is great, don’t get me wrong, but it can fail.
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Presently, there are more than 100 million people suffering from sexually transmitted diseases in the United States itself, with the worldwide number going into more than 600 million.
Life expectancy for people with HIV who are diagnosed when their immune system is still robust is expected to be more or less the same as anyone else’s.
Some studies even suggest we may live a bit longer than our negative brethren (only because we’re always going for check-ups so any other conditions are likely to be detected earlier).
In that time I’ve had my share of sexual and romantic rejections on the basis of my HIV status.